Planning To Sponsor Your Girlfriend's Education: Read This
April. 23, 2019
A young man recently shot his girlfriend in the face with a gun last week in Bayelsa State simply because after sponsoring her through school, she decided to jilt him and went for another guy.
This is not foreign or in isolation. There are countless stories about how a man sponsored his girlfriend or fiancee and after going through the four walls of a higher institution, she becomes wiser, her level of reasoning changes, even her level of exposure is broadened and she suddenly sees the guy sponsoring her as less than her present class eventually.
This is typical if not inevitable as while going to school, the girl involuntarily meets with different kind of people, and this new exposure may affect her choices and personality.
Sadly, while the girl experiences these drastic changes, she does not tell the man to stop sending money.
The man still assumes the role of her sponsor. Sending her school fees and upkeep with the hope that he would take her in as his wife after her graduation. That his efforts will be rewarded when he marries her.
Upon graduation and sometimes when the girl finds a job or another "worthy partner", she discards the man who has been her sponsor for many years.
It usually leads to chaos. This cases have led to death, discord, agony, and hurt.
Now before you decide to sponsor someone's education there are some crucial questions you need to ask yourself.
Would I do this for a total stranger?
If you know this is beyond your "goodness level"
Am I doing good for goodness sake or comeuppance?
Being a good person means more than just doing things for others. You have to accept and love yourself before you can put positive energy into the universe.
Determine what being a good person means to you personally. Some people think that being a good person is as simple as not doing harm to another. But it is not always about what you don't do, but what you do for others.
Are you improving yourself?
As far as you are not yet married to that significant other, whatever you give to that person in a relationship should be out of love and not as a bait which you will use to accuse the person or even take the person's life when the relationship eventually goes sour.
As a young man, whatever you can't let go of, DO NOT GIVE. Don't go and kill someone because you sponsored her through school and she eventually dumps you for another guy. That's a very bad way to take revenge, and you might rot in jail for taking someone's life.
From this story, ladies should know where to draw the line. If you are not interested in a guy, why accept gifts from him, and giving him false hope of marriage?
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