Why Wizkid and Tiwa Savage’s Romance Is Nobody’s Business
Sept. 11, 2019
Wizkid and Tiwa Savage as a couple represent a real power merge of two bright, musical minds.
They are both symbolic of how greatly Nigeria’s music industry has grown, and being together sounds like good news for their respective music careers and for the fans who love their music. But while there is a lot of music-related hot takes to pick from what they have going on between them, it is the relational aspects of it that Nigerians are more concerned about. The 29-year-old’s relationship with the 39-year-old mother of one, and what it stands for, is what means more to thier fans.
Some Nigerians, especially on Twitter, took the video as a confirmation of the long-standing relationship rumours between Tiwa Savage and Wizkid. One of her Instagram followers, Emmanuellaobaje, wrote: “Haba Tiwa you are old enough to be Wizkid’s mom, which one is being a bestie with someone old enough to be your son… ”
The reactions also threw jabs at the erstwhile relationship between Tiwa Savage and her ex-husband Tunji Balogun aka Teebillz, especially as he had debunked the rumours in September 2017. Recall that after Teebillz and Tiwa Savage split in 2016, dating rumours between her and Wizkid intensified with several heartfelt posts about both of them flying around various social media platforms. Although Wizkid has never openly dispelled the rumour, Tiwa Savage has denied it on several occasions. However, the ‘Fever’ video has heightened the suspicion.
Despite what Nigerians think, celebrities who married younger men are doing fine and making their marriage work. One of such examples is the popular dancer, Kaffy. The Guiness book of record holder dancer husband, Joseph ‘Papy J’ Ameh is eight years younger than she is. According to his international passport, Papy J was born on May 23, 1988.
This doesn’t matter as the couple is living a happy life which is already blessed with two children.
Another awesome example is that of Peter Okoye and his beautiful wife, Lola Omotayo. Lola is said to be 6 years older than Peter, but apparently, this doesn’t matter to him as he has stood by her despite the opposition he got from his brothers, Jude and Paul.
Tiwa and Wizkid being together may not just be about them only. Theirs could influence many others to break away from certain restrictive dating principles that the Nigerian society loves to uphold. The funny part is Tiwa Savage wouldn’t even need to change her current surname, as she already shares one with the Starboy, Balogun. In May 2019, another video surfaced online of Tiwa Savage and Wizkid being all over each other. This time around, what we saw was Wizkid slapping Tiwa’s backside playfully and buggering off just before she could retaliate.
There isn’t much in the video in itself to suggest anything Nigerians don’t already know. It’s been common knowledge for a bit that the pair is likely a couple. And although there hasn’t been any confirmation or denial from any of them, they have not particularly been doing anything to cease the rumours either.
Our dating culture is one that is, sadly, still too close-minded to anything that is not traditional and conventional. So, expectedly, there was [and there still is] revulsion, confusion and disgust in the hearts of many people as to why a woman would be dating a ‘kid’ 10 years younger than her, notwithstanding that even at 10 years younger than Tiwa Savage, Wizkid is still 29 years old. A whole grown up man!
In addition to that, the fact that the woman in question has a young child and is separated from her husband, and the consternation and judgment people hold in their hearts towards this relationship doubles. For some people, the separation and young kid actually worsens things 10-fold!
A lot can be said about the resistance, negative comments and damning predictions people have shared on what would become of the pair, but what’s both interesting and impressive is how both of them have been carrying on, seemingly unbothered by all of this.
Of course, they know the society they both belong to, and it’d be ridiculous if they claim to have never seen or heard some of the backward, ridiculous opinions people have of them being a couple.
Regardless of how society views their relationship and all that’s been said and heard of it, Tiwa and Wizkid’s attitude provides yet another evidence of the approach they are taking to this whole thing. It’s like they’re saying to everyone who cares to watch and observe [and that’s a lot of people] that they’re always going to do what they want to do; what they feel happy and comfortable about, and it is not for anyone to decide for them whether that’s cool or not. And that’s something that is great for Nigerians, a people who aren’t so big on people moving against the grain of long-standing eternally-upheld ways of life and convention to do what they want to.
In the grand of scheme of things, this is not just Tiwa Savage and Wizkid winning against restrictive dating rules set by society. It is also, in a way, further validation for single mothers and divorced women who really want to get out there to love and feel alive again. It is a validation for men who are in love with women who are significantly older than they are, and are bothered about what people will say.
Tiwa dating Wizkid is a lesson in living your best life because human beings got just one life to live. It also subtly reaffirms that you don’t have to delimit or repress yourself to please people who have no stake in your life, and those whose opinions don’t count but won’t stop proffering them anyway. The fact that the two superstars have continued their romance despite all the initial uproar and moral policing they got has now seen the reaction to them become one of acceptance and indifference.
The lesson from is simple; life continues. People will get used to you being the way you are. They’ll move on to something else. So why downplay your happiness or tone down your brightness because it makes people uncomfortable? if your idea of sex and relationship is in line with consensual principles and all that, then go ahead and enjoy in love in all the healthy dimensions you deem fit and with anyone your heart pleases.