The Amazon Prime Video host is certainly no rookie when it comes to long-distance romance. Charissa Thompson and her long-time boyfriend Steve are managing a bi-coastal boot camp while balancing time zones, jobs, and a real farm. Even if he’s off being a productive adult somewhere else and she’s controlling herself in California, they manage to make romance seem like a Nicholas Sparks reboot. But let’s be clear—this isn’t love letters and love songs. It’s sweatpants, bad Wi-Fi, and a man in a blazer next to a wine glass and candles to impress her girl.

But while Steve is away, where precisely is Charissa posting? Not a luxury suite, not some Malibu mansion—nope.

It turns out Charissa’s ranching. And it’s 75 acres of farmland—not with another man. Yes, Charissa Thompson is living the good life at the ranch in California that she purchased two years ago. The only danger she faces is a chicken that tries to peck her boots. But even out in the sticks, love finds a way—and long-distance love? That one requires effort. On a recent episode of their Calm Down podcast, Charissa opened up about making long-distance work—something she’s been navigating with her boyfriend Steve.

A listener asked the million-dollar question: “My GF and I have been together for two and a half years, long distance from LA to NYC. Any tips to make long-distance work?” Charissa? She had stories. “Steve and I did this the other day, actually,” she began. “I was at the ranch, he was here. I wasn’t able to come back and see him before he left again. So we did a date night over FaceTime.”