Scooper True Life: My Husband Donated His Sperm And I Just Found Out
Etim|Dec. 14, 2018
My husband and I have been married for 8 years with 5 children, 2 boys and 3 girls. He has a best friend who has been married for 3 years without children. The wife is my friend.
My husband donated his sperm for IVF without my consent. He was given 1 million Naira for his sperm to be donated to my friend, the wife to my husband best friend.
I was never put into the picture. When her pregnancy was announced around October 2017, I was so happy for her. She never disclosed anything to me or told me of her IVF procedure. She gave birth to 2 daughters in August, 2018. They threw a big party and painted their city red.
In mid-November 2018, when the kids just turned 3 months, one of the babies fell from the baby rocking little bed on their parlour chair in their sitting room. The house maid had gone out to get something behind their house.
The child was bleeding so they rushed her to the hospital. Only to discover she was S.S genotype. They later took the other one there for test and discovered she is A.S.
They called my husband 2 weeks ago at 2am to come to the hospital, he wanted to go alone but I said I will come as I will be worried for the baby.
The first thing that shocked me was that the baby looked so much like my daughters at that age. She has the big eyes of my husband and my 5 kids. My husband was told to donate blood as he has O negative like the child and he is the only one to give the child blood.
After 2 hours there, we went home. I could not sleep. I told my husband directly "Is there something about your friend’s children you want me to know?”
He said, no. I said okay and slept off.
I noticed he was already awake and left home for work too early the next day. I quickly dressed up and went to the hospital to see the wife. Only to see my husband there with them.
I told them straight that it was my husband that donated his sperm for the IVF!
My husband knew that he and the wife were AS and wasn’t such a smart decision but he had wanted the 1 Million Naira more. They did not bother to find out.
She told me she wanted to tell me when they were all planning it last year, it was my husband that kicked against it, that I will never agree to the plan. Now I have called his family and my uncle only, as I do not have parents. I have told them that I can only remain in this marriage if the 2 daughters of his best friend is given back to me.
They are my husband kids and mine as well, or they MUST pay me 2 million Naira, or I quit my marriage. My husband is a cow. The twins are too beautiful like my husband for me to leave them with that family. My last child is lonely needs them to call sisters. I need advice on what to do next.