Don't Force It! 5 Obvious Signs A Guy Is Not Into You
Aug. 13, 2019
One of the most frustrating positions for a woman to be in is wondering whether a guy is into them or not. It’s tough, because on the one hand you want to let him make the first move… but on the other hand if he’s not interested then you’re setting yourself up for disappointment…If he’s showing you these signs, that means that unfortunately, he’s not shy… he’s just not that into you.
1. He never calls or texts you first
This is a big one. When a guy is into you, he wants to talk to you. He loves to talk to you. He CRAVES talking to you. It just feels good to him. If he’s obsessed he’ll be watching his Facebook messenger list like a hawk waiting for you to come online. And he might restrain himself and not text or message first in order to not appear too eager, but… Some of the time, he WILL contact you first. If you’re always the one texting, calling, or messaging him first, and he never initiates a conversation – that’s one of the biggest signs that he’s not into you.
2. He flirts with everybody
Woe to the woman who falls for this type of guy. It’s super easy to become interested in a guy who’s flirting with you. After all, just talking to him makes you feel good… and that makes you wonder if you make him feel good too. The problem is, usually with a guy like that, if he’s interested in you he’s going to make a move. A guy who flirts with everybody isn’t shy – he’s going to go after what he wants. So if you’re hoping that he’s interested in you because he’s flirting with you, but he’s not making a move and he flirts with lots of other people, it’s a sign he’s not into you.
3. He doesn't get jealous at all
A guy who’s into you is a guy who’s super sensitive to competition. He might not go charging off threatening to fight any guy who looks at you (obviously not)… But an interested guy is a guy who’s going to pay attention when you mention another guy. If you were into a guy and he mentioned a woman he’s “friends” with – you better believe you’d be paying close attention.
4. He never tries to spend time with you
This is maybe the biggest sign. If a guy is into you, it’s because it feels really GOOD for him to be around you. It’s because he gets an excited, happy, positive feeling in his stomach when he’s around you. And if he’s getting that feeling, he’s going to listen to his gut. He’s going to want to be around you, and he’s going to make an effort to spend more time with you. That means that he’s going to make excuses to see you. He’s going to make an effort to see you. If he’s always too busy to see you, and never makes an effort to get together with you, that’s one of the strongest signs he’s not into you.
5. He talks to you about other women in his life
This is a huge “you’re a friend, not a potential girlfriend” sign. A guy would NEVER ask for advice on his love life with other women from a woman he’s seriously into. That screams that you’re his friend who he’s looking for a woman’s perspective from, rather than someone he’s interested in dating. Obviously, casual dating means that you’re allowed to see other people at the same time as him – just like he’s allowed to do the same. But if he’s talking to you about them? Asking your advice?It means he’s much more serious about them than he is about you, which is not a good sign for your future together.