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I changed the wifi password because my 24f sister 23F won’t pay her share of it


Dec. 01, 2019

My sister and I moved into a two bedroom apartment together 5 months ago. Just to paint a picture, my sister is the kind of person who always has to have the master bedroom in any living situation she’s in, even if she’s paying less for rent than everyone else. I knew that going into this but I tried to compromise with her; if she was going to take the master then she would have to pay 2/3 of the energy bill 2/3 of the internet. She agreed right away.
After living together for a month she refused to pay for the internet because she claimed she never uses it. This frustrated me, but I knew she was only using her phone at the time and had unlimited data, so I let it go. When I asked for her share of the utilities that first month, which was $38, she told me it was actually $20, because my share of renter’s insurance is $18. I felt like that was way more than it should be for renter’s insurance and asked her to show me the bill, and she said she would, but I have still yet to see it.
About a month ago she got a chrome cast which uses wifi, and she uses it daily. Not only that but she uses it daily at max volume on my TV, but that’s beside the point. I’m sure it crossed her mind that it uses internet, but she would never offer to start paying for it. I’ve been dreading asking her to pay again, now that she’s using it, but I know she will refuse and throw a tantrum and that’s the last thing I want to deal with right now. In other similar situations where I have to ask her to do something she doesn’t want to, she ends up responding in a way that makes me furious. Then she calls me crazy for reacting that way.
I decided to change the wifi password tonight, and I am so scared of her reaction that I can’t sleep. I feel like her argument will be: “You’ve been paying it anyway! Why does it matter to you that I’m using it now? It doesn’t affect you at all. You’re just trying to make my life harder than it already is. Our aunt is giving you money. I’m working for my money”. My aunt has been paying our rent which is why she was so eager to move in with me. She’s paying it until I finish college next spring. I was living alone but was having so much anxiety, that my mom suggested I move in with my sister. At the time my sister was getting kicked out of her place so it worked perfectly for her.
I regret moving in with her so much. She does not support me at all. I once was so sick that I could not get out of bed for 2 days straight and she didn’t bother to knock on my door even once. So I still have anxiety + extreme stress from living with her. I’ve been dealing with some serious health issues that make it hard for me to get a job right now on top of going to school. My aunt gives me a few hundred a month, which barely pays for all my expenses. Thankfully I’ve been given the opportunity to eat for free on campus. The few times I do buy groceries my sister does this thing where she eats most of it but saves a few bites for me, as if she’s saying, “You’re welcome”. I don’t say anything to her about it because it’s another argument I don’t want to get into. I don’t drive anywhere except for school because I can’t afford the gas. I’m at the point where I’m looking for work now just to be able to get by, even though I know it’s probably not a good idea for me.
My sister and I have barely been talking this past month. I decided to just keep my distance and only talk to her if I absolutely have to. But I’m so scared of what her reaction will be to me changing the wifi password. I want to stay level-headed and not let her get to me and stand my ground, but it’s proven to be impossible in the past. It’s always her way. I’m afraid she might do something like steal and hide the motem or my laptop. I’m going to tell her that if she doesn’t help pay for it I’m going to cancel it, because I can’t afford it anymore.
I guess I’m mostly just asking for advice on how to respond to her when she comes to me demanding for the password. I would just cancel it right away, but I’m home so much due to health issues and am using my laptop frequently. I could just study at school. But it would really suck if I had to cancel it.
tldr my sister is refusing to pay her share of the internet bill, so i changed the wifi password. i’m scared of her reaction and am asking advice for on how to deal with the situation without it escalating
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